My focus found

Focus speaks to where we choose to deploy our attention. We express our focus in the goals we set for ourselves. If you’ve been following the more of me process to this point, you’ll appreciate you’ve got an entire truckload of talent, skill, passion, character, drive, inspiration and purpose, to offer the world. Next, you get to choose where it goes.

Your focus is a scarce and valuable currency, the most precious one you have, so we encourage you to aim it where it counts. 

So far, the insights you’ve gained in the more of me process have shown you the whole spectrum of your strengths and helped you understand what is fundamentally important and nourishing to you. 

The way each of us prefers to approach the concept of focus varies. Some of us favour laser-like singular attention to maximise our impact on a single key goal. Others spread our energy more broadly across a number of goals concurrently, so as to feed a number of appetites together. It’s your call. The critical thing is to stay purposeful and considered. We only get to experience each moment and each day once. We best not waste them living on autopilot.

While we acknowledge personal preferences and personal contexts vary, we recommend you seek some measure of balance across your goals, albeit in a way that has clear priorities. It’s not about spreading yourself thin like butter on hot toast; it’s about acknowledging that you aren’t one dimensional. We expect that when you have identified what matters most to you, it won’t be just one thing. Your full more is a complex and rich blend, just like good coffee.

 
 
You’re the Director of your life. You choose where to put the focus.
— JD Meier

The process of finding our focus is hard.  Initially, for many of us, the experience throws up as much discomfort as it does clarity and opportunity. Almost inevitably, once we have listed what matters most to us we immediately compare this vision with how we are actually living and where we’re spending our time. Gaps, dilemmas and inconsistencies begin to appear. For example, you might determine that spending time with friends and family is a very high priority to you, only to realise that, according to the amount of time you currently spend on these activities, you don’t rank them highly at all. What’s that about? Your internal dialogue starts up: the rationalisation, the regret, the fear and the negotiating. Welcome to twenty-first-century life!

We weigh our sense of responsibility towards others, our need for financial security, our appetite for risk and a host of other heavy issues in our thinking. There can be tension between the voices of our hearts and our heads.

Arriving at a set of meaningful goals that we are determined to meet is very demanding, but it offers many rewards. When we wrestle with big questions, little ones get relegated to the back of our minds and the solutions surface in time. If we put in the thinking, we’ll find the insight, inspiration, confidence and conviction to fully take the helm of our lives.

Knowing what is enough is critical to finding our more. The more of me mission is not to instil dissatisfaction in our clients; it’s quite the reverse. We want you to experience fulfilment. For most of us, that arrives when we marry self-knowledge with equal measures of striving and of being mindfully content.  More resides in considering what might be possible for us and working towards it, while at the same time living whole-heartedly in today’s reality. If you’ll forgive us the cliché, the journey is as important as the arriving. Our goals need to remind us to notice and be present in the passage of our lives.

Believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect.
— Brené Brown

Attaining Focus

We’ve got a tool, template and resources to help you with your goal setting. Be prepared, because goal setting is an iterative process. It’s not an overnight assignment for any of us. 

Unless you are really up against a tough deadline, we encourage you to ensure you gather all the important inputs for the process first.  This includes the exercises in the expert in me and more compass modules, which will mine the big stuff that sets you apart as an individual, like your innate talents and personal values.  For those thinking about rewards in work, the exercises in more work are valuable resources.


My focus found: Actions and Outcomes

You set the goals and timeline for this module, though we recommend you leave time to get your targeting and execution right. The number of sub-processes and exercises you take on will vary according to your needs, but we recommend you complete at least one or two from all three processes in the order listed here:

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Process steps:

  1. Complete my focus found exercise and template
  2. We’ll give you a prompt sheet and some background reading to help 
  3. One-on-one coaching session
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Time commitment required:

  • My focus found exercise and template: 2.0 hrs
  • One-on-one coaching: 1.0 hr
  • Allow time for fine tuning after coaching: 1.0 hr

Total time for this module:

4.0 hrs  

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Outputs and outcomes:

  • A detailed set of personal goals based around what matters most to you.
  • Your goals prioritised, with initial action plans and milestones.
  • Your meaningful focus found by tapping into strengths deep within you.
  • Your motivation and concentration trained on growth and reward.
  • You will take an important step towards enhancing your wellbeing and contentment.